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Stalking is a pattern of repeated, unwanted attention, harassment, and contact. Isolated acts may not be considered stalking, but where there is a pattern, the behavior is generally illegal. It is a course of conduct that can include:
- Following or laying in wait for the victim
- Repeated unwanted, intrusive, and frightening communications from the perpetrator by phone, mail, and/or e-mail
- Damaging the victim's property
- Making direct or indirect threats to harm the victim, the victim's children, relatives, friends, or pets
- Repeatedly sending the victim unwanted gifts
- Harassment through the Internet, known as cyberstalking, online stalking, or Internet stalking
- Securing personal information about the victim by: accessing public records (land records, phone listings, driver or voter registration), using Internet search services, hiring private investigators, contacting friends, family, work, or neighbors, going through the victim's garbage, following the victim, etc.
- Know that you are not alone. There are resources and caring people on campus who can support you.
- Clearly communicate that you have no interest in having any kind of relationship with the individual. Request that all communication of any form (text message, phone call, Facebook, etc.) cease immediately.
- Contact Public Safety, Residence Life or Portland Police. Let them know what's happening.
How can I protect myself and help someone else? Before you go out:
- Make a plan before going out (set personal limits on drinks and sexual activity)
- Buddy system (never leave without your buddy)
- Be aware of the Danger Signs - Power and Control Wheel
- Acknowledging that you are at risk and knowing that most perpetrators of alcohol and other drug facilitated sexual assault are friends or acquaintances, allows you to make decisions to reduce your risk and that of your friends
- Share information about substance-related rape with friends and talk about ways to look out for each other when you are at parties and social events
- Be aware of your surroundings
- Do not leave beverages unattended
- Pour and open your own drinks or watch them being made by the bartender
- Carefully monitor your intake of alcohol and drugs
- Ask a friend to keep an eye on you and do the same for him or her. Anyone appearing disproportionately drunk in relation to the amount of alcohol they have consumed may be in danger
- Don't be afraid to say 'no'